Feedback Strategies

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The two articles I read were "Be a Mirror" by Gravity Goldberg (found here) and "What Kinds of Messages Help Kids Grow?" by Deborah Farmer Kris (found here). 

Both of these articles were really interesting as they provided more specific examples of better types of feedback. In "Be a Mirror", the main takeaway was that we shouldn't use feedback like "I like how..." but more of "When you...". This really struck out to me, because in the past, I have usually given feedback with using personal pronouns. I can see how this might be ineffective in trying to show someone what THEY did well. I definitely will keep this in mind as I continue through the semester in this class.

However, what was interesting was the examples show in "What Kinds of Messages Help Kids Grow?" which talked about how adults shouldn't be telling kids "Great job" but "I like how...". This type of feedback shows children that adult approval is being given with what the child did and that they should adhere to what the adult desires. I do agree that feedback should be more specific in telling a kid what they did well in, but shouldn't be taken as a way to show approval or disapproval by a parent as every kid has his or her own idea of what is an accomplishment for themselves.

These are articles that not only show how important our word choices can be, but also how important feedback can be in all aspects of life. 

Feedback Thoughts

 

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Feedback is crucial to all of our lives. We desire for people to tell us what they think no matter the subject. We don't take the time to realize, however, that sometimes our worst enemy is our own mind. They we perceive ourselves is a reflection of our performance and they way we come off to others.

 

This was an important lesson I learned in the article "6 Bad Mental Health Habits that Sabotage Your Success" (found here).

While we do ask others to let us know their opinions, we must also keep in mind that our actions equally affects us. Someone may give us negative feedback, but how we decide to take it also is dependent on our mind strength. We can't make excuses for our mistakes, we can't think negatively about our future performance, and we should be confident in our own work.

 

Comparing ourselves to one another is also a detrimental action, because there really is no good that comes out of it. What may be our beginning, may be someone else's middle, as pointed out in the article "The Psychology of Comparison and How to Stop" (can be found here).

 

It's human nature to be curious and to compare, but this is something we also have a control over. This is where mind strength also comes into play. The energy we are taking the time to compare ourselves, and make ourselves feel better or worse could be better used to work on ourselves.

Just like comparing yourself to someone better than you makes you feel worse, we also shouldn't take the time to point out who we are better than. This just only continues to chain of comparison.